The days of being a spiritual mentor in Meiman.

Chapter 3090 "Romantic" Wedding Season ()

Chapter 3090 "Romantic" Wedding Season (Ten)

After the bonfire party, everyone cleaned up the debris. This time they learned their lesson and the majority of the group went back to the Stone House first, leaving only a few people to work, and they finished the work faster than before.

When they returned, it was already very late. Most people went back to their rooms to sleep because many of them had been drinking. The next morning, Schiller woke up early to find that no one was there and everyone was still sleeping.

However, his biological clock was very stable, so he planned to make something to eat first. Just as he was checking the ingredients in the refrigerator, he suddenly heard footsteps on the stairs.

He turned around and saw an unexpected person, it was Reed.

Schiller and Reed were actually not very familiar with each other. They might have had some overlap at work, but they had no contact at all in private.

But as soon as Reed showed up, Schiller knew he was coming for him. It wasn't that he could read minds, but mainly because Reed's eyes were so sleepy that he could hardly open them. It was obvious that he had forced the computer to turn on. None of these scientists had a normal schedule.

Since he was not used to getting up early, it went without saying why he got up so early and went downstairs so early.

Schiller had originally planned to make a sandwich, but seeing the situation, he decided to just fry an egg to make do. Out of politeness, he fried four eggs in total, made two cups of coconut milk, and brought them to the island next to him.

The smell of fried eggs sobered Reed up a little. He smiled at Schiller a little embarrassedly. The two sat on both sides of the island counter and chatted while eating breakfast.

There was no need to explain Reed's purpose. In fact, he didn't intend to say anything, because Susan's performance yesterday had already convinced him that Schiller could read minds.

When talking about Reed Richards, many people's first reaction is that he is a troublemaker. However, many of the more famous disasters caused by him were not done by Mr. Fantastic of the main universe, that is to say, they are not Marvel history, but parallel universes.

But that doesn't mean that Reed in the main universe is so good. He is half responsible for the Illuminati's bad reputation. In earlier comics, he once took all the team's funds to stock trading and lost it all. In short, he is not a good person.

In Schiller's view, Reed was not a mental patient, nor did he have personality defects, his mental state was very stable, and he was considered a normal person.

But his biggest problem is his lack of responsibility, which is the main reason why he is so talented but unpopular and lacks personal charm.

The lack of responsibility is not only reflected in big things, but the impact in daily life is actually more serious.

Maybe many people have met this kind of person in real life. He is highly educated and has strong skills. You can tell at first glance that he is not stupid. His mental state is also quite stable. He even shows unparalleled talent in some aspects, but you just are not attracted to him.

This is actually very counterintuitive, because social status, personal ability, emotional stability, and emotional appeal are all important components of personal charm. People who usually possess these things must be very popular. Even if they only have one or two of them, they will be very likable and have good popularity.

For example, some people may not have talent, but they are extremely emotionally stable, as if they have a solution to every problem. When you see them, you feel that there is nothing in this world that cannot be overcome. Such people must have many close friends who have known them for many years.

Or some people have a bad temper and are prone to going crazy, but they are unique in their professional fields and have strong abilities. Many people will unconsciously be attracted by his talents and gather around him.

Let's look at Reed again. He is well-known for his talent, holds a very high status in the scientific community, and is emotionally stable. Even Stark, who looks down on him the most, has never seen him get angry. At most, he would be a little sarcastic.

He also does not have any obvious symptoms of bad behavior, such as not being able to read the atmosphere or understand the emotions conveyed by others.

If that's the case, why on earth is he unpopular?

In fact, the answer is that he has no subconscious awareness that he should be responsible for all his words and deeds.

For example, everyone has times when they say things without thinking. When Stark complained that the camera on an iPhone was not as good as a professional video camera, Pepper happened to be taking a photo with her iPhone next to her. This was an awkward situation, as if that person appeared just as you were saying something bad about someone to someone else.

Stark's reply of turning shit into gold sounded particularly absurd and seemed to have very low emotional intelligence. Fortunately, Pepper had high emotional intelligence and responded half-jokingly and half-reprimandingly, and the matter was over.

However, the most important thing is Stark's attitude to make amends after he realizes that he has said something wrong. No matter what method he uses to make amends, or whether he can actually take back what he said, the key is this attitude.

But if it's Reed, after he curses something and then finds out that someone else is using it, he won't try to undo it. He doesn't feel that he is responsible for what he said, nor does he feel that he should be held responsible if his words hurt someone.

This will result in him saying something that hurts someone, and that person is waiting for him to make amends, but he doesn't even have an embarrassed expression and forgets about it two seconds later.

As time goes by, there are countless such incidents. Others are not stupid, so why do they have to be stabbed around him? Naturally, fewer and fewer people will surround him.

Reed was also very puzzled. He really didn't do anything bad to these people, and he himself had no ill intentions, but everyone suddenly ignored him.

When he went to ask these people again, they just looked at him and said, "What have you done? Don't you know it?"

I felt even more confused. What did I do? I didn't bother you, and I didn't quarrel with you. Why do you treat me so badly?

Little do people know that adults actually understand that you cannot be a person who never hurts others emotionally. Whether intentionally or unintentionally, it is impossible to do so. The key is your apology after hurting others.

Emotion is the exact opposite of justice. It is said that justice delayed is not justice delayed, but this is not the case with emotions. No matter how late an apology comes, it is still an apology, even if you apologize ten years later, even if the person you apologize to may not remember what you did to him, as long as you are honest with him and apologize, he will always think you are a sincere person.

Although expressing an apology cannot completely make up for the harm, human emotions are contagious. If he can sense your genuine guilt and be touched by this feeling, it will naturally eliminate the resentment in his heart and at least give him a reason to forgive you.

Even if you don't feel truly guilty, just pretending to be sorry is in line with social moral requirements. In simple terms, feeling sorry for hurting others is one of the important criteria that society defines as a good person, and you have to pretend.

People who possess all the personal charm are unpopular mainly because they don’t even pretend and don’t even have an attitude.

At the beginning, many people may be deceived by appearances, thinking that this person is really talented and it is an honor to be able to connect with him, and they unconsciously pursue them.

However, people who lack responsibility cannot hide their true colors. They will not consider anyone's feelings, and their unapologetic behavior is sharper than anything else. Once you have been in contact with them for a period of time, you will feel their unreasonableness, which is even deeper than that of people with a bad temper. You may even feel that they are not human at all. The fear brought about by this sense of alienation will drive people to flee.

Some people, like Reed, do not think they are responsible, while others realize they are responsible but try to evade it.

For example, the saying "once spoken, they can be taken back" is a typical way of evading responsibility. Although it also serves to warn people to think carefully before speaking, it is more often used as an excuse to evade responsibility when one is struggling over whether to take back what has been said without thinking.

Words spoken are like water spilled, which cannot be taken back. But you can't just splash water all over someone in the dead of winter and walk away like that. If you don't even have to hand over a towel, you should at least apologize, right?

Of course, there will definitely be people who say that I have low emotional intelligence and I can’t speak well. The more I try to make up for my previous verbal mistakes, the more angry I become, so I might as well just shut up.

This is actually a typical escapist mentality, which is of no benefit to interpersonal communication. The key to an apology is to show attitude, that is, emotional infection, rather than logical persuasion.

If you think about it carefully, many people in life start crying and can't even speak clearly after getting into trouble, but people around them will go to comfort them. No one would apologize in a way that makes it like a speech, telling the whole thing in detail.

Rather, the more you talk about logic and stick to the facts at this time, the more likely it is that you will seem to be shirking responsibility. It is better to express your emotions directly, use your emotions to infect others, make them realize that you are indeed sad about the harm you have caused before, and express that this is not what you originally intended.

There is another advantage to doing this. If the past is brought up in the future, you can simply downplay the fact that you got into trouble and focus on describing how sadly you cried at that time. If you are a little shameless, you can also express the meaning of "I was so sad at that time, but you were still concerned about that matter."

This is indeed very unreasonable, but as I said before, the secret to social suppression is to never reason.

In Schiller's experience, Reed's lack of responsibility was the most serious he had ever seen. It permeated every aspect of his life and even seriously affected his daily life.

The most obvious thing is that he has no friends.

The Fantastic Four were not formed, they were not bound together by super powers, Reed had almost no friends in his life, and the comics never mentioned that he had any personal friends.

In fact, if Reed Richards wasn't so talented, he would have been begging on the streets long ago because of his lack of responsibility.

But it is precisely because Reed is so talented that this is an unsolvable knot. Schiller has to force him to solve it, because mankind still needs Reed's wisdom. If he is not used to treat us, how can technology progress? How can mankind develop?

Most importantly, without the famous cosmic destruction engine of the multiverse, what can he use to threaten those cosmic administrators?